Fran Drescher sat down this week and described her relationship with her gay ex-husband Peter Marc Jacobson — the man she was married to for 21 years, who came out after their divorce and somehow became her absolute best friend, constant travel companion and permanent fixture in her daily life. She revealed the one rule she has for him — and the way she said it made everyone who heard it burst out laughing and feel slightly envious at the same time.

Then she casually mentioned she also keeps a little rotation on the side — and when the reporter looked surprised she simply said “I’m Fran Drescher. What did you think?” At 68 this woman has figured out something most people spend their entire lives trying to work out — and she is absolutely not keeping it to herself.